Bald Fetishism
I wanted to address a topic that is rather heated in the lives of women who live as Alopecians; the bizarre world of bald fetishists. I have gone to a number of bald fetish sites to see what the fascination is with a bald woman and try to make sense of this odd sexual proclivity. Women shave their heads for a variety of reasons, but as I am discovering, it is about power for a woman. And for every “powerful clean shaven woman” there is an awestruck willing man erect and waiting to be subdued. I wanted to look objectively at this group of participants, because I believe women are just as much apart of the bald fetish world as men are. I wanted to understand exactly what the big “turn on” was and why this particular fetish makes men go nuts and blow their load.
The picture on the left shows two women involved in fantasy roles, one as a dominate and the other as a submissive. For the sake of staying on the conservative side, I am not showing the rest of the picture. The woman being shaved not only has a clothes pin on her tongue, but she is topless with clothes pins pinched to her breasts as well, and from the waist down she is wearing a plaid Catholic school uniform skirt, white knee high socks and shoes. For me, it’s hard to see what the great appeal in this is, or even how it can be a turn on. And then it dawned on me; how long has sex in general been looked at as bad, wrong, sinful, immoral, disgusting, perverted and base? What were you told growing up about sex? How about sex before marriage? Could fetishism just be some deep psychological rebellion against what their parents expressed as acceptable and “right?” Or is it the acting out of parental hangups about sex, beauty, love and life? As I view this first picture on the left I see a few things at work. I see a woman with a clothes pin pinched on her pieced tongue. Is there something she isn’t supposed to talk about? Her head is being shaved; was vanity and beautiful hair ever an contentious issue in this persons life? This is supposed to be exciting? A turn on? Well, when you were young, did you ever have sex 
in the house while your parents were home? Did you find it exciting to do something you weren’t supposed to do? Was it a turn on to almost get caught?
Since a bald woman isn’t a regular part of what is “acceptable” in the mainstream media or society, I think this adds to the appeal with fetishists. But what is a fetishist anyway? I believe that a fetishist of any kind needs that object or body part to get off sexually. The list of fetishes are extensive! Smelly feet, defecation, animals, hands, hair color, latex rubber outfits, S&M, size and shape of a woman or man, piercings, tattoos, fantasy incest, angry clown sex, objects…you name it and it has probably already been an active part of someone’s sexual life.
It can be a totally selfish and self serving sexual behavior that cares nothing for the other person. But for every self-serving fetishist, there is an equally self-serving partner…so I think they are kind of made for each other, don’t you? There are women that shave their heads because it’s a turn on to them and they know there is an audience for their brand of sexuality. Does that make it wrong? As objectionable and disgusting, immoral and base as you may feel it is, it’s how these people choose to live their lives and express themselves sexually.
I wonder what will happen if more women decide to make it acceptable to be bald in public and in society. Will it be as much of a turn on to the fetishist? I must clarify something though…I don’t believe if a man feels a bald woman is beautiful, it automatically makes him a bald fetishist. There is beauty to the female form, and when her hair is gone it allows the face, bone structure, eyes, nose, lips and smile to be seen clearly. Hair is no longer a distraction. Some men are actually surprised that they find a bald woman attractive. I would hate for them to feel shame in some way because they find bald women beautiful or sexy.
I have spoken to many women who are bald not by choice but because they are Alopecians. These are women who have lost their hair and now feel preyed upon by bald fetishists. They feel objectified by a fetishist’s advances, and rightly so! These are women who are NOT a part of the bald fetish fringe group and do not wish to be exploited or used to fulfill some strange sexual fantasy of a man who can’t seem to get it up without the assistance of looking at a bald woman. This of course adds to the excitement for the bald fetishist because “they’re advances and compliments aren’t welcome” by the Alopecian woman and this in turn adds to the appeal.
I have had a very good experience being an Alopecian woman, and while there have been some fetishists that have contacted me online, for the most part they have been far and few between. I don’t feel every man that thinks I’m sexy or beautiful is under suspicion of being a fetishist. I accept the compliment and allow my beauty to be acknowledged.
If you are a bald fetishist (male or female or both), leave a comment and let me know what the appeal is for you.
If you are an Alopecian what are your feelings about bald fetishists?
If you are neither but have a ready opinion…tell me what you think!
Bald Beauty of the Day
Bobby Revell on Sat, 14th Feb 2009 10:48 am
Everyone has some sort of fetish, but most are taught to deny themselves of anything out of the ordinary. But who really wants to be ordinary? Ordinary means plain–nothing special. We are all beautiful in our own way regardless of tall, short, fat, ugly, pretty, bald or lustrous hair. We can choose to see the beauty in everything–or we can brand anything different than ourselves vile and ugly (what a horrible way to live).
I really don’t have a bald fetish–it doesn’t matter to me as long as I’m into that person, I accept them fully no matter what they are. I do have a shaven downstairs fetish LOL! Hey I’d really enjoy a completely hairless woman. Haven’t had one yet
Angela on Sat, 14th Feb 2009 12:45 pm
Ah, But Bobby is it a fetish or is it a preference? Do you need a “shaven downstairs” to get you going or is there more? For some a fetish is everything, for others it is more preference based and just fun.
John J Savo, the Authoring Auctioneer on Sun, 15th Feb 2009 10:20 am
Hmm… I never thought about analyzing my fetishes. I have a fetish for corsets, stockings, and high heeled shoes. I also get turned on my a well tattooed woman. I never stopped to think about why. I guess I just figured it was a matter of taste, like how I love peanut butter ice cream and hate rhubarb.
Angela on Sun, 15th Feb 2009 10:50 am
John,
I wonder if the word “fetish” has become so loosely defined that people think they have a fetish, when actually it is just a matter of likes and dislikes?
I mean, does Nikki have to be in a corset, stockings and high heeled shoes for you before you start getting hot, or could that gorgeous wife of yours be wearing a paper bag (or nothing at all) and you go nuts? I would define a fetish as no matter what Nikki does, if she wasn’t wearing those prescribed items you aren’t getting hot.
John J Savo, the Authoring Auctioneer on Sun, 15th Feb 2009 6:41 pm
Oh, no. She doesn’t need costumes to turn me on.
Diana on Sun, 15th Feb 2009 9:55 pm
As an young woman who suffers from Alopecia (it’s been a year since my last flare, though, thankfully), I’m endlessly frusturated by women who choose to shave their heads. I hate that hair is so significant, but, it is what it is, and so I truly feel offended by women who engage in this fetishism. I’d give anything to keep my hair, to never experience a fallout again, and these women are giving their lush, full, healthy heads of hair up?
I realize that society is so shallow. I realize that I, too, am shallow. I was profoundly affected by my hair loss, and some affects are certainly residual. I’ve been suffering from extremely low self-esteem. I no longer wear make-up or dress nicely. I do my best to be completely invisible for fear that I will be deemed unattractive. I fear another episode. I have nightmares, and I have moments where I feel absolutely devestated by a perpetual feeling of ugliness.
And these women, they’re shaving it off for some sexual deviance. It truly feels as though they’re laughing in my face and at my plight.
Angela on Mon, 16th Feb 2009 12:04 am
Hi Diana,
Thank you for your raw honesty. I don’t feel that it is shallow in the least to care about our hair. Hair is so very beautiful and adds a different dimension to the physical attributes of a person. But that’s where it ends. No matter how gorgeous a woman’s hair is, if she opens her mouth and has nothing of value to say; if she opens her hands to hurt rather than to mend and to heal, what good is her hair? Deep profound suffering has a way of making a person more beautiful than they can ever imagine…hair or no hair. As I walk this life as an Alopecian woman, I have discovered that people are very generous and accepting. They are far more accepting than I was willing to give them credit for. When I accepted the fact that I have places where my hair will never grow back AND the fact that I also have Alopecia Areata and at anytime could lose all the hair on my head as well as on my body (It has happened to me before) I was willing to give others the opportunity to be accepting and understanding. I’m so glad I did!
I do know of one woman who is a model and contacted me because she wanted to shave her head. I had no idea at the time what she looked like (or that she was a model)and so as we continued to send messages back and forth, she finally went ahead and shaved it all off. THEN she sent me pictures. OMG, this woman had hair down past her gorgeous behind! Gone, all gone. She wanted to do something different, and I totally get that. She looked so beautiful with her head shaved. She told me that she planned to keep it shaved too. There was no fetishism involved, just a woman who wanted a change. I know that it can seem unfathomable to a woman who is trying so desperately to keep her hair, but to me, she is a beautiful example of how gorgeous women can look bald. I find great comfort in that.
If you ever need to talk Diana, just go to my contact page and drop me an email. I’m here if you need me!
Thank you again.
Stillthinking76 on Mon, 16th Feb 2009 1:56 pm
The photo is gorgeous and you two look so happy!
Angela on Mon, 16th Feb 2009 2:03 pm
Hi Still-
I added the “Bald Beauty of the Day” section at the end of my posts to show other women, men or children that may be bald. I’m not in the Bald Beauty photo.
Galena on Tue, 17th Feb 2009 1:11 pm
Dear Angela,
I really enjoy your writing. It’s intimate and intelligent. I’ve been an Alopecian (AT) since September. I shaved my head that month and I wish I could report that my transition was as resolute as yours. I have struggled with going out in public without a head cover. I don’t believe that work will ever be a place for my bald look. When I’m before the mirror, I honestly don’t see the beauty. The way you described your hair was the same for me—it was my glory. The adjustment to being bald is a daily one. The convenience of not having to consider what my hair looks like has been a pleasant freedom. But when I see a woman with beautiful hair, I get a sinking feeling of regret.
The bald fetish is yet something that I’m sure I will experience in the months to come. This article is something that all Alopecians should be aware of. If someone is interested in you for a specific attribute or characteristic is that a genuine interest or a fetish? There are many considerations to make before accepting romantic or sexual advances.
Your blog is the best personal account I’ve read on life as an Alopecian. If you are not a member, check out Alopecia World at the address above, it’s a great site for Alopecians and the people who love them. Again, thank you for this great blog and I plan to visit here regularly.
Regards,
Galena
Angela on Tue, 17th Feb 2009 1:56 pm
Hi Galena,
Thank you for your kind words. It took a long time for me to be comfortable in my own bald skin, and I do struggle at times with it still. It also took me 5 1/2 years to think I was beautiful bald, and no one could have convinced me of that. I had to really look at myself and acknowledge my own beauty.
With regards to someone being interested in another because of a specific attribute or characteristic, I think it is all relative. For instance there are men that prefer blondes, but does that make it a fetish? I guess in writing about bald fetishes, I wanted to explore what a real fetish was. I think its ok for a man to feel that a bald woman is attractive and even sexy…hell, my husband thinks so! But his reason for wanting me to remain bald has to do with the emotional toll that it takes on my heart and mind as well as my family. If it’s acceptable for a woman to be attracted to a bald man AND think he’s sexy, why not the other way around?
I hope in time you will see and appreciate your beauty Galena. If you ever feel moved to submit a picture to me, I would love to add it to my collection of “Bald Beauties.” You can go to my contact page for my email and submit your picture. I want to celebrate with you as you move forward with your life as an Alopecian woman.
NYCFellow on Fri, 3rd Apr 2009 8:01 am
When I was 11 I saw an old black and white movie called something like “the girl in the kremlin”. In it a woman has her head shaved completely bald. I remember being completely transfixed by the scene because I had never seen a woman without hair in my life prior to that moment. To this date, I find a bald woman extremely alluring.
As a side note, I have MPB. It’s been an intensely painful and embarrassing process to go through. I’ve spent thousands of dollars on treatments that brought limited results and have even gone so far as to consider transplants. But, my research to date leads me to believe that the results will never be what I want them to be. So lately, I’ve come to accept that the battle is a futile one and I will eventually capitulate and shave my head bald. There is a wave of relief that comes with the capitulation, but I still cast envious looks at people with a full head of hair.
Angela on Fri, 3rd Apr 2009 10:21 am
Hi NYCFellow,
Thank you for your comment and honesty. Now I’m curious to see that black and white film! I think the thing that is alluring about a bald woman is that there are no distractions to the beauty of her face. When a woman has no hair on her head, her eyes become the new focal point and you get a glimpse into her world.
I appreciate your comment about MPB and the painful and embarrassing feelings you mentioned. I speak to women who go through hair loss every day, and many are under the impression that men don’t particularly enjoy going bald but can deal with it better than their female counterpart. I do not believe that this is nearly accurate. Both men and women are clearly and equally disturbed by the fact that they lose their hair, and while it may seem more common for a man to go bald, I believe the emotional effects upon men are just as grievous as they are for women. It leaves us all feeling isolated, alone, swallowing our pain and imagining that our lives would be better if only we had more hair.
If we had more hair we would be more attractive, more influential, more desirable, and more loved. This is where hair becomes an illusion to happiness and a thorn of sorts in our flesh. We begin to blame our lack of hair for the misfortunes in life, love lost and jobs denied, when in reality it is just a way to give up and hide our beautiful souls from those around us. We think ourselves vain for caring about such things and that leads to more self-inflicted pain and hiding.
Just as you shaved off the rest and felt relief at last, it is the same for me and many other women who can not stand the emotional pain any longer. It is one of the most freeing and terrifying experiences I have been through. It was freeing in that I took on a new and dynamic look for myself, not looking sickly anymore, and at the same time terrifying because I feared the unknown. What if people didn’t accept that I was a bald woman? What if they thought it was hideous? I am happy to report that in my experience, bald women ARE just as acceptable. We can be beautiful, sexy and alluring because those things are actually not attached to having hair. Hair is beautiful and creates a certain “look” but it is the essence of the man or woman that makes him/her all those things.
Curt on Wed, 29th Apr 2009 7:53 am
I’m a 48 year old guy who has appreciated and admired bald women ever since I started noticing women. I like to think of myself as a normal person and always have, except I always felt like a freak for being strongly attracted to bald females. When I was 14 I was in town with some guys from school and we say a bald women in town. She was a beautiful mature women and I was awe struck. The other guys were laughing at her and even called out to her and mocked her. I joined in to seem part of the guys but later I felt so terrible. Not just for being mean to someone who was different, but because I chickened out, when deep down I wondered why none of the other guys thought she was hot or sexy.
Later in school I was a senior and met a new girl in school who’s hair was cut very short (I also find this attractive) I really liked her and she me, but when I told my pals I was thinking of asking her out they said “She looks like a boy, are you queer or something?” So I didn’t pursue that and said “yeah she would be pretty if she had long hair like a women should have. I honestly thought of myself as a sexual pervert and a freak for having these desires and so I tried to suppress it. I knew I wasn’t homosexual, but the topic was total taboo. I felt like there was something wrong with me. I had a deep dark sexual secret I could never reveal.
Fast forward to the dawn of the internet. I found out there were people like me. I started checking out yahoo groups for bald lovers and bald women websites. I found out about things like alopecia and wished I could met someone like that, because it would be win win for both of us. You wouldn’t even know there is such a condition because you can’t see them. How was I ever to met the women of my dreams? If you want to say I have a bald fetish fine, I know it was something I was born with and kept hidden all my life. I didn’t choose to be attracted to baldness, that was who I already was. I wanted to be cured of this. Just like women who loss their hair didn’t ask for it. I found out that alopecia women sorta think of guys with a bald fetish are sexual predators who just want to get a hold of their bald heads and don’t see them as persons. There are guys like that. Guys that visit that website you got the pics from.
I’ve been to the sight you got those clothes pin pictures from they didn’t turn me on but I have seen plenty of pictures of bald naked women that absolutely drive me wild.
I used to dream of meeting some shy pretty young gal in a sun dress and sandals sipping coffee on the patio of Starbucks.We would met and fall in love, both happy with what they are getting. Her baldness wouldn’t be an issue or flaw but a bonus and enhancement, and she would know deep down in her heart that her man truly loved her as she is and wasn’t secretly wishing she had hair. I didn’t mean for this to go this long, this is a big topic for me.
At 38 I found a wonderful woman and we fell in love. We married and are still happily married. She isn’t bald. she thinks my desire for her to try going bald is weird and she dismisses it as unimportant, something to be laughed off.
I love my wife dearly, we have a normal mundane love life.
I never met the pretty bald girl at Starbucks, society told me I’m not supposed to be attracted to that kind of women. Society told the pretty girl she better not reveal her true self in public, bald women are either sick with cancer, crazy or lesbian.
Now at 48 I’m starting to see that it’s our society that’s sick and not me.
KFMaxim on Fri, 24th Jul 2009 11:02 pm
Curt’s story is very similar to mine so I will not spell out all the things in my life as he has.
I can tell you that I am a good man who has raised a normal family and now in my early 40’s would welcome a good smart woman into my life.
See I like bald women also… but I have a few other preferences that are deal breakers.
Let me explain.
A woman does not have to be bald for me to like her or date her. I think many women are beautiful and I am not a bigot about it either.
I prefer smart women. Even if the most beautiful bald woman came to talk to me and she was dumb as a board, a drunk, a druggie, or someone of poor character, I would have to decline.
As a man who has some moral standards and who believes life and families are sacred, I will not put a simple preference above what I know to be right.
I have seen the site you went to and extracted the photos from. It is repulsive and a turnoff for me. Torture, bondage, coercion, and any of that other nonsense is sick as far as I am concerned.
To your model friend who shaved her head? Can I have her phone number
That is the situation in a nutshell. Currently I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with. Now that the ex’s and child rearing is behind me, I want to concentrate on being good to someone.
Am I sick or twisted because I believe her bald head is just more places to put kisses? Certainly not and anyone who thinks so is a bigot or sick and twisted.
God bless you all and thank you for the opportunity to dig into this subject with a fork.
One more thing I will add…
For the girl who is mortified to loose her hair and another girl I extended some kindness to… I feel bad for your plight and I know it is hell to deal with this. My prayers are with you because you also need emotional healing and that takes time and work. You are beautiful and worth the extra work and effort. You have to give life and people a chance.
One girl who had total hair loss in the midwest I knew had such low self esteem that she actually berated me for giving her flowers and told me I was stupid for thinking she was attractive. Go figure… I did business with her company and I know for sure no one gave her anything for Valentines day. I felt bad and wanted to give her something to smile about.
Its not me who is filled with rage and has issues… All I can do is pray for her.
Thank you for your time and for breaching this taboo subject.
KFMaxim somewhere in USA
Ted Michael Morgan on Thu, 25th Mar 2010 6:07 am
I have a google blog but I cannot fine the site just this momenet.
People call me many bad names because of I find bald women attractive—at least, some bald women. I have female friends who have shaved their heads. They are more into this than I am, but I own who I am.
I have theories about my attraction but they are just theories. I do not wish alopecia on anyone and I never make an effort seek woman with alopecia. I try to be sensitive and respectful.
Ted Michael Morgan on Thu, 25th Mar 2010 6:20 am
Bald women have attracted me for at least 43 years, probably longer. I have long outgrown other fetish interests. This is one survives. I do not think about it often. I was able to make love without thinking about it all my life.
Still, caressing a lover’s baldhead during lovemaking is incredibly intimate and sensuous. Maybe, it is just an anomaly that my fetish happens to correspond to an illness. The fetish began long before I had any knowledge of alopecia.
I think you posted an image from a site that is known for its excesses, maybe to make a point. I don’t know. Anyway, I do understand why women with alopecia often do not like people like me or find me strange.
Dude on Mon, 28th Jun 2010 8:00 am
Bald Fetishism comment
Angela! I discovered your post here, just now,
as your tab opened along-side some others,
in my search for permanent removal of hair
(My ugly-beard grew, only one-time long-ago, into a nightmare.)
grown weary of daily face-shaving, when there is no need.
Appearing to my curiosity as unusual, possibly interesting and different from the stuff I normally chew-on, I paused here and read
It took me several minutes reading, before I was aware. If you had not enumerated them, the symbols within your first illustration would have escaped my notice, being among the innumerable things about which I seldom or never think. The observations and questions which follow, too, are not one’s which would have occurred to me. If I had only viewed the photo without reading, I probably would have just closed the tab. Hey, maybe I just learned something.
In those same paragraphs you write, “Women shave their heads for a variety of reasons, but as I am discovering, it is about power for a woman.” I am assuming the power-context to which you refer is within the Bald Fetishism community. Certainly, some women shave their heads for unhealthy reasons and don’t feel better afterwards, sexually, or any other way. Here is why I say that.
In more than 6 years, I have met only one woman who shaved her head bald by-choice. While waiting at a bus stop near the university campus, I met a very-upset young woman (maybe 24-28 years-old) who had become so upset and depressed over the breakup with her ex-boyfriend, only a few hours earlier, she erupted in anger and impulsively mowed-off all her head hair as low as her trimmer would go. She was definitely not experiencing any feeling of power; her emotions were see-sawing abruptly back-and-forth between sad lamentations and near-rage. As we talked for 15 minutes or so, I became increasingly concerned for her mental health, especially I didn’t want her to hurt herself. I was really difficult to infer, but I sensed that hurting herself had been the haircut motive. I asked her if she wanted to talk with a counselor or someone more skilled to help her through this pain. She told me that she would be okay. We rode the bus talking along the route up to the stop where I needed to exit. I never ran into her again, unlikely as that would be. This was two years back.
Angela, I see what is perhaps the greater point of this post, being, “Bald Fetishists GTFO of my blog and my life.” There are relentless idiots (read men) who have been bothering a few of my female friends for sex, etc, for far too long. So, it isn’t just the fetishists. There appears to be a certain-type of very-thick, concrete-filled skull attached to that thing we men love so well. Anyway, thanks for the educational post.
Angela on Mon, 28th Jun 2010 8:29 am
Hi Dude,
Thank you for your very well spoken comment. I understand that there are women out there who, in a moment of desperate impulse shave off all their hair. Some of these women who do shave their beautiful hair off because of emotional pain do it because they feel unworthy. Often, that is exactly what we can see portrayed in the movies or the news…like Britney Spears. Some may find it completely incomprehensible to shave off that hair, so others will spin a story about them being crazy. To the woman who shaved her hair off because of emotional pain, she has gone beyond the personal thought that hair is important, and is focusing on something outside herself. In that, there is actually power. How many of us can travel beyond ourselves to think of another? Women shave their heads for many reasons, and I do know that emotional pain is one of them. For me, it was the emotional pain of only having some of my hair. I shaved it all off so that I would have symmetry and not look so sickly.
On a personal note, before I actually started losing my hair due to Alopecia, I did have an emotional upheaval a few years prior due to something that was happening in my life at the time, and I cut my long dread locks off and then shaved my head. I can tell you from my own personal experience that after I cut and shaved off all my healthy beautiful dreads, there was a certain release for me. I actually felt more calm. Of course at the time, to those around me, I must have seemed like I came unglued and unhinged emotionally, but the reality is that it became a symbol of my new beginning…a new start.
carmen on Wed, 22nd Sep 2010 11:16 pm
i feel so sad been bald or losing hair i 42 and my boy friend always remind me tha i losing hair,i need to accept my condition unfurtenly in mexico is so strengt to see people without hair.
dana on Mon, 11th Oct 2010 4:17 pm
a woman that shaves her head completly bald is so erotic! i am bald by choice at one time in life i had hair past my shoulders and at the time i went to a hair salon and i told the beauticain that when i left i wanted to be shaved skin bald and not to leave anything except a smooth head’ i told the ladie with clippers and her razor to just do it and not let me see this intill their is nothing left when she got done she turned my chair around to see my baldness i freaked out and cry’d it was like oh my god what have i done after a few weeks went by i began to start shaveing everyday now even my eye brows and i love it so much i am seeking permenat baldness thanks to all the other women out their that dare to bare your loved so much!!!!!!!
Sarah on Fri, 29th Oct 2010 5:08 pm
Hi,
I have been a bald fetishist since the age of 16, but never indulged in shaving my own head until the age of 26. I love the look for both physical and psychological reasons. The feeling of the razor, buzzing across my skin as I shaved my head, was tremendous because of the simple amount of nerves in the human scalp. I shaved my head also because of a question of identity; would people think the same of me because of my lack of hair? Would they judge me, and think of me as a non-conformist, and thus expel me?
baldladie on Sat, 30th Oct 2010 11:01 am
personly i just love the photo of the girl wearing the yellow neck brace its obviuos to see she had body modifaction to stretch her neck’ very adorable!!!!
Maria on Fri, 12th Nov 2010 1:31 pm
I’m not bald, nor a bald-fetishist. I’m a 20 year old female and I came to this blog while I was trying to find a bald & blonde model I saw a picture of recently because I found her to be the most gorgeous female I’ve ever seen.
Anyways. I read the blog, and all of the comments. And I got thinking, man, poor girl, constantly wondering if men are only interested in her because she’s bald with ulterior motives of using her for sex/exploitation. And I tried putting it into perspective– What if guys only liked me because of the way I look? Because I’m skinny, ‘pretty’, and have LONG hair? Then it occured to me.
I AM PREYED UPON because of the way I look, CONSTANTLY. Everywhere I go I’m checked out. Men constantly approach me and try and get to know me, in person, on my facebook, etc. And all of the times I’ve given them the chance to get to get to know me, or tried to get to know them, they ALWAYS end up wanting to have sex with me. But I guess because I’m very typical-looking for our culture, that these guys that seek to advance sexually with me aren’t weird, or freaks, right? But the guys that prefer bald women–that WOULD NOT want me– are, because they don’t mesh with our culture.
Honestly. As a female, I realize I will never understand what’s in a man’s head (the one holding their brain). But one thing is clear to me– they are ALL very sexual, more sexual than most females. MOST. Or most females don’t feel it’d be appropriate for them to embrace their inner-sexual self and desires. Either way. We are all victims of some man’s sick sexual fantasies. You wont stop it. Ever. So embrace it. Whether or not it’s genuine or for a good reason, the scientific, subconscious reason for wanting to have sex is to reproduce. So, see it in such a way that they’re genetically wired to register YOU as someone worthy of impregnating. Does that sound stupid? Whatever, I’m bad at articulating.
If I came off as rude, you’re misreading me and I apologize in advance.
baldladie on Mon, 29th Nov 2010 8:41 pm
don’t worry about apologizing hun) i understand what you are trying to say ‘not everybody agrees and that’s okay but as for me when i was a young girl i found i had a strong attraction to bald men and as i got older i relized i had a bald fetish i would find myself going through the internet looking at bald guys it was a real turn on and still is and i got to thinking if guys can do it i could to so i got up the courage to go to a hair salon and get it shaved bald at first i was scared because once i was in the salon chair there was no backing out i told the beauticaion to shave it bald’as she got the clippers out i was very nervous at first so i closed my eyes as i heard the pop of her clippers and as it touched my head i knew my choice was made ‘when she was finished i opened my eyes (and yes i did freak) but i got to love my bald look over time so much i found my self shaving it smooth everyday in till i wanted a permanent method as i went through permanent laser hair removal i fell in love with the alopecia look with no eye brows that was also removed a lot of gals out there don’t know how blessed they are to have their hair fall out in life its real freedom and i know i made a wise choice to be a permanently bald woman never will i regret it for one minute!!!!!
Lad23x on Mon, 20th Dec 2010 2:16 pm
Hi Angela:
I first discovered that I was attracted to bald women when I was a teenager and saw a picture of a bald woman in the newspaper. Is it a fetish? I don’t think so but I have always found the absence of hair on a woman exciting. I can appreciate that a woman with alopecia might not wish to be pursued by someone with this preference but it might also be viewed as an asset. When women are viewed as beautiful, they will always receive attention, some of it unwanted. I find baldness enhances the beauty of a beautiful woman.
Angela on Tue, 21st Dec 2010 4:30 am
Hi Lad23x,
I must agree with you that baldness enhances the beauty of a woman! While my hair loss has been in remission for quite sometime now, I must say that I felt very beautiful at a time when most women would be dreading their physical appearance. What changed? Realizing that my hair does not make me who I am. It is only an ornament…an adornment, for which I had become accustom. Most women and men equate beauty, youth and vitality with having a full head of hair, but when I accepted the fact that I may never have the hair I once had, it allowed me to look within myself at a beauty that transcended the outer physical life and see beauty and worth that far exceeded anything a full head of hair could accomplish. It is a fullness of being. It was there the whole time, it just took me losing my hair to really acknowledge it.
What you see in a bald woman goes beyond her physical looks. Her beauty is beyond comprehension, beyond words. Yes her face is more clearly seen, but what is most evident is her strength to be and do whatever she deems worthy…including shaving her head. Whether she does it because of medical purposes, or because she enjoys being bald, she learns the empowerment that comes at the end of a razor. Empowerment that goes beyond the length or fullness of hair, and dwells in the graceful beauty of what it means to grasp the fullness and length of life.
Any woman that is losing her hair medically will do everything in her power to keep what she has. I must commend those who do battle hair loss, but I admire even more those who *find* themselves in the midst of that battle! It is a most amazing thing to see a woman realize her true worth and beauty beyond her hair and to see her transform and move forward with her life. That may be bald, or with supplemental hair…either way, it is her new found empowerment which makes her all the more appealing and gorgeous in her own right.
lad23x on Tue, 21st Dec 2010 12:14 pm
Well stated. Keep up the good work. L
johnny on Thu, 30th Dec 2010 5:54 pm
I dont understand why it is a fetish to find bald women attractive. My wife has shaved her head several times and we both agree it is the state we would both prefer her to be, Yet, jobs, society, the usual suspects stop us being who we want to be. She looks better bald. There is no dispute! If we could manage our lives as we want, my wife would be bald, and happier for being so. I think it is something we will achieve, but why do people think we are strange? I never comment on how (ok, not hideous) unattractive many womwn are with dreadfull hair! I like womwn with hair! It’s just that a bald women can be even more beautiful.
Angela on Fri, 31st Dec 2010 7:21 am
Hi Johnny,
If your wife enjoys being bald, then why should anyone stop her? I did not have any issues being bald (with others disapproving of it). I didn’t hear any nasty comments, or even get looked at oddly for being bald. No one asked me if I had cancer, pitied me or anything else. Actually it was the opposite of what I had originally expected. I thought I would be asked if I had cancer, looked at as oddity, and maybe even shunned…it never happened. I had more compliments from men and women about being bald, and it took a while for me to get used to that. I had to let go of my own inner prejudices about long thick hair being a sign of beauty before I could appreciate that beauty comes from within. I had to see my own beauty.
johnny on Fri, 31st Dec 2010 10:20 am
Thanks for your note, Angela. My wife works as a teacher, and thinks it may be seen to be rather odd to be a bald woman. We both love the bald sensation, and she does look better bald! I never thought I would say that about my wife! We do hope that soon she can find a position where her baldness would be accepted, as she prefers to have no hair! It is amazing that we found each other before we discovered our mutual feelings for female baldness. When we can shave her head again,soon I hope, and perhaps keep it shaved, we aim to renew our vows with her bald! Having feelings like this hurts nobody and is just our way of expressing ourselves, and being the people we want to be. I think bald women are beautiful, my wife likes being bald, get over it!
Angela on Fri, 31st Dec 2010 10:42 am
Hi Johnny,
What better way to educate our youth than to NOT keep up with the status quo? Maybe during the summer months after school lets out, she can shave her head, re-introduce herself to her peers at work, get them used to it and return in the fall as a gorgeous bald teacher.
I have four children and one grandchild, and I can assure you that each of my children’s friends thought they had a pretty cool mom…being bald seemed to make it so. LOL
There may also be children in school who suffer with alopecia and wear a wig to fit in. In talking to many teen girls, I’ve found that once they stepped out of their fear of being bald and learned how to embrace their baldness, they became truly free, and also found that they were in fact accepted and embraced. A teacher leading the way, may give courage and inspiration to young girls and boys suffering from hair loss.
johnny on Sat, 8th Jan 2011 6:51 pm
Hi,angela. My wife and I have been talking about our ‘fetish’ as it does seem to dominate our lives. I think shaving at the moment is out of the question, though there is a slight possibility. I cant say why I want my wife to have no hair on her head though it is a shared feeling. She says she feels ‘clean’ or ‘perfect’ when shaved bald. I find that it just suites her and there is a massive sexual element in what we do. To deny that fact, would be to deny the truth of our feelings. I do not want my wife to have hair! My wife does not want to have hair. When we sort out how to do this there will be only one result. Angela, if you want to see my wife, lu-lu, go to the **************, scroll down to contributions, and she is ‘my beautiful wife’, two pictures looking into a mirror in our bathroom. We posted (she did actually) to show, well, just how good a woman can look without hair. Very good I would say, would’nt you?
Angela on Sun, 9th Jan 2011 12:28 am
Hi Johnny,
I had a chance to go to the site, and yes she looks beautiful and very happy.
Give Lu-Lu a hug for me and tell her I said “you go girl!”
David on Sat, 15th Jan 2011 4:44 am
Hi Angela,
I am a normal man in his mid-fifties, and have been attracted to bald women certainly since my late teens. ‘Fetish’ would be far too strong a word; I would call it a sexual preference, just as I prefer dark-skinned brunettes to fair-skinned blondes.
Whilst I do visit what might be described as ‘appreciation sites’, I don’t visit true ‘fetish sites’, except occasionally by accident. I stumbled on your blog whilst looking for images of bald women, and found it very interesting. As a result I decided to read around the subject a little more, and found one or two blogs that discussed it from ‘the other side’, as it were. All of this gave me food for thought.
Perhaps because there is a general feeling in society that women shouldn’t be bald, most alopecian women probably feel anything but attractive and sexy, and may feel puzzled, disturbed and even threatened by male attention. It’s perhaps only if and when an alopcian woman comes to accept her baldness, and perhaps even to enjoy it, that the situation may change.
This is likely to be the case even with men who have no preference either way, but just like her for who she is.
David on Sat, 15th Jan 2011 7:00 am
I meant to say also that if an alopecian woman does feel attractive and sexy it’s probably in spite of, rather than because of, her baldness.
petiteMonique on Thu, 20th Jan 2011 8:05 pm
I am a woman in my mid-30s who has been shaving her head off and on for fashion reasons since I was 22.
I either wear my hair ultra short or shave my head smooth and wear the bald look. I believe I have the head shape and feminine features to wear the bald look well.
My husband loves it on me, he finds it attractive and sensual on me.
Alot of men do like the bald look on beautiful women. You can really see a woman’s beautiful feminine features without hair.
I first tried the bald look because I saw some beautiful women fashion models and singers who wore the look, and I loved the feeling of it.
It has become a fashion style for some beautiful women.
I usually wear a wig or headscarf at work, so I don’t attract too much attention, but sometimes when I go out with my husband, I get dolled up in my makeup, a pair of long dangle earrings and a sexy dress with my bald look. I love wearing it.